Stuck, lost and confused
I hear you, girlfriend. I used to feel the same way. All my friends were getting married, climbing the career ladder, buying houses and making children. They seem to be flourishing and having it all.
I, on the other hand, was feeling stuck, lost and confused. I had no clue what to do with my life and what next steps to take. Let alone using my body to make babies and buying houses to raise them in.
And all though, some parts of me were okay with not “having made it yet”, a bigger part of me wasn’t. Of course, I also wanted to have it all figured out. And of course, I didn’t want to feel stuck and off track. I just had no idea how to make that happen.
Continuing to struggle helps, right?
So, instead of taking my stuckness seriously, I chose to ignore it. I just kept on going on the path that I had chosen. I continued to struggle in my legal job, thinking that if I would just try harder, I would too figure it out.
But you know what,
I didn’t.
I kept feeling miserable, up until a point where I even got burned out. When that happened, somewhere deep down inside I knew that this was because I wasn’t doing what I was put on this earth for. I was holding on to things that didn’t work for me. All in the hopes of building a life that I was never meant to live in the first place.
That was why I had been struggling. That was why I hadn’t “figured” it all out. That was why I was feeling so terribly unhappy.
Goodbye to getting married before my 30th
This realization was extremely hard for me. Because leaving behind my legal job, would set me back on the “life achievement path” big time.
So…
…goodbye dream wedding before my 30th birthday…
…goodbye buying a house…
…and goodbye ‘making it’ anytime soon.
But nonetheless, I had no other choice but to listen to my soul’s calling. I had to explore what life could be like if I started over.
I have made it in my inside world
Today, I work as a Soul Purpose and Inner Transformation Coach.
I still haven’t bought a house, I’m still not married, I still don’t have any children.
But that is okay because I know that I’m on the right path and I trust that my time will come.
I finally feel happy and free. That is why I don’t care anymore about whether or not I have made it in the outside world.
I have made it in my inside world and that is so much more valuable than all the money and status in the world.
I know and trust and believe that the Universe has great plans for me and that I will live a life beyond my imagination.
Soley because I decided to follow my heart and start doing what I am meant to do.
5 tips for when you feel behind in life
Maybe you recognize yourself in my story. You also look at your friends and wonder how on earth they are so put together and you are not.
Here are 5 tips that will help you.
1. Stop comparing yourself. I mean it. Stop doing this!
There will always be people who have it more figured out than you. If you keep comparing yourself to others, chances are that you will feel miserable.
And, do you want that?
NO, right?!
So, stop looking at the “success” of others and start focusing on your own life.
Ask yourself what you can do today to change your circumstances. Focus on that instead of on the lives of others. That will make you feel better fast.
Oh, and also, just because they seem to have it all figured out, doesn’t necessarily mean that they do. Keep that in mind ;-).
2. Take your feelings seriously
For what reason so ever, you are not happy with the way your life is right now. Burying your head in the sand and hoping that it will pass by is not going to help you, my friend.
Your feelings are there for a reason. So you better listen and deal with them.
3. Explore why you are feeling this way
Start exploring why you are feeling this way.
Why haven’t you figured it out? Why are you feeling stuck, lost, overwhelmed and frustrated?
Maybe it’s because you are in the wrong job or the wrong relationship. If you can’t figure this out by yourself, get help! Hire a coach, talk to family and friends. Do what you need to do to figure it out.
4. Take action!
Once you have discovered why you are feeling the way that you do, start taking action.
Right-a-way.
Like NOW!
You shouldn’t spend your days feeling sad and miserable. Once you know what the disconnect is between your desired world and your reality, you can start taking action.
Also with this one, if you can’t figure it out by yourself, get help.
5. Focus on making it in your inside world
The most important thing in this whole process is that you take good care of your inside world.
These are some things you can do:
- Daily meditate
- Practice gratitude
- Journal
- Say loving affirmations to yourself in order to feel good
Happiness is an inside job. That is where your success lies. When you are able to be happy with who you are and what you have, it won’t matter anymore what you have in the outside world.
Once you are connected to your intuition and your higher self, you ‘have made it’. No matter your outside circumstances.
Figure out your next steps in 15 minutes or less
Now, if this blog resonates with you, but you have absolutely no idea on where to start when it comes to changing your life, I have something for you.
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You too have the ability to also “figure it” out and “make it”. Start taking action today and your life will change beyond your wildest dreams.
Lots of love,
Hailey
